What price fidelity?

Fidelity. Nope, I am not talking about hi-fi, not being an audiophile. Marital fidelity, that is.

Alright, all of us have roving eyes- whether we are men or women. No harm looking when an excellent specimen of the opposite sex comes our way. See only, no touch, go ahead – indulge in your fantasies, when done; just go about your life as usual. No point rocking the boat when you are married, especially when you are happy with your spouse.

Yeah, real easy to preach all this gospel, right? You must think I am trying to be a monk or worse......

Lack of fidelity or outright unfaithfullness is the problem. Is it any wonder divorce rates are high and still climbing? I wonder. Of course there's always the the old standby whine – my spouse doesn't understand me, etc etc ad nauseam. Or is it just pure lust?

There is actually a medical term for sexual lust, read about it recently but just as conveniently, I forgot about it. There is a perverse addiction for variety, sexual types that is. Let's not kid ourselves that craving for affection drove a person to seek it out of wedlock. Just plain old sexual lust.

Let me tell you a real life story about Larry, an acquaintance of mine. Larry is in his mid- thirties, a permanent resident in Singapore. He is married with a young kid; his wife being a graduate and career woman. Problem is, Larry is a rake. I used to tease him that he has a better deal than Muslim men who are allowed to take up to 4 wives; because he has 5. Yessir, 1 common law wife and 4 mistresses – all in different towns over here; just so they don't bump into each other. Being a cunning guy, he calls all of them 'Dear', never by their names thereby avoiding the calamity of using the wrong name at any time! How's that for being wily, eh. Good measure actually, if ever any of them finds out he has been sowing his oats far and wide, they might just do a bobbit on him. Bobbit is a term coinedfrom a Ms. Bobbit who snipped off her hubby's cherished appendage when she discovered he was double timing her outside. Can't say I sympathise with him in this aspect.

All of Larry's mistresses believe she is the only one apart from his actual wife in Singapore. Talk about naivete. I guess it takes two hands to clap but let's not forget the background of the 4 mistresses; they were karaoke gals or aka ______ (you fill in the blank). I would have expected him to have better taste and judgement. Only money attracts these women, Larry had lots of it. Or at least he did until he started collecting mistresses like I collect Matchbox cars. Now he is way broke. The plot thickens - the women are now getting in the family way, one by one. His mating season. Last count, he already has 2 kids out of wedlock. Six additional mouths to feed, not forgetting another 2 in Singapore. Consolation is, he is contributing to a larger population in this fine land of ours. Properties that he bought in joint ownership with the women remain locked in limbo; he cannot sell them off to free up cash to fund his business; cos the gals are terrified that he will cast them aside with nothing left.

When the chickens come home to roost, that's when our Larry will find himself in deeper shit than now. What if one of the gals decide to slap him up with a paternity suit? Force him to furnish regular financial support to them and the kids. His legal wife may hear of his nefarious wanderings. Oh boy, that would be the day. Sure wouldn't want to be in his shoes then. Then again, he did chose to go and sin some more. The crap will most definitely hit the fan.

You reap what you sow. Problems; monumental ones, that is.